LOVE MATTERS

MATTERS OF THE HEART

The following are the signs you should look out for in your partner when you want to decide whether he is abusive or not.

1. Watch out for every possesive and controlling guys. They are more likely to become abusive.
2. Monitor hisjealousy and insecurity levels. Does he dislike your friends for no apparent reason? 3. Be aware of violence or threats of violence. This is never an acceptable behaviour.
4. Dont get taken in by the way he cries and rationalises his behaviour. He will use your sympathy to get you. He may even tyr to manipulate you by making it seem like it's your fault.
5. Notice if he tries to remove you from public places inorder to get you abused.
6. See if he belittles you all the time. Does he ever call you names ? Hurtful names that you have repeated begged him not to call you ?
7. Watch how he talks to or about your parents or your friends. Is he rude or unkind ?
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9. Look for patterns of violence. People who are abusive in relationships are often abusive in other situations.
10. Has he ever shoved or hit you ? Has he ever thrown things at you? THIS IS THE MOST OBVIOUS SIGN OF AN ABUSER.
THINGS TO DO:
If you tell him that you do not tolerate his behaviour and he apologises one minute and then blames you the next, then he is not sincere. Its time to move on.
Sometimes, he will accuse you of not loving him,do not be fooled, this is a mere tactics to make you feel guilty and to stay with him. If you decide to leave him then you must do so and break all ties and communication with him. Its the only way you can successfully move on.
Try to let someone know of your situation so that they can help you,because in an abusive relationship, you need COURAGE,STRENGHT,POWER and DETERMINATION.

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